About Sko:

I’ve lived 1,000 lives as a Black Nigerian Catholic man in a world not built for me. Some days, I’m on top; other days, I’m lost. I’ve been desired and invisible, confident and uncertain. I’ve played offense and defense in this heteronormative world—sometimes in the same breath. This is my story—raw, real, unapologetic.

My teenage years were a battlefield of identity. I dated women while secretly hooking up with men, searching for myself in hidden places. At 19, I was with a man ten years older, taking risks I didn’t understand. I tried to be “straight enough,” “Black enough,” “man enough,” but none of it felt like me.

I was part of a "muscle mafia"—a secret network of closeted guys sneaking away to hotel rooms, all searching for acceptance.

LA became my playground of contradictions. I was a sugar baby, a personal trainer to celebrities, a video vixen, and a bodyguard for has-been TV personalities. I’ve lived both power and vulnerability, strength and survival.

I’ve faced microaggressions from white men and macroaggressions from my own community, navigated interracial dating, and learned to love as a Black man in a world that often doesn’t love us back. I moved forward, even when there was no room for me.

I’ve been fired twice in a year, cheated on, and still got the last laugh. I’ve learned: there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’—just what’s right for you. It’s about making your own rules.

When life was chaos, books were my lifelines. "The 48 Laws of Power," "The Velvet Rage," "The Art of Seduction," and "Stoicism" were more than books—they were strategies to thrive in a world not made for us.

My life has been a series of experiments and errors. I’m here to share the lessons and life hacks that cut through the noise.

This journey is about more than survival—it’s about turning every challenge into triumph. Let’s break the rules that don’t serve us. What rules are you breaking to stay true to yourself?